This post originally appeared on the918.org
To me,
motherhood means having a hummingbird feeder. My mom has always had hummingbird
feeders and my grandma always did, too. She loved hummingbirds. After I had my
first child, I asked Kyle if he would get me a hummingbird feeder for Mother’s
Day. It was a right of passage. The 19 hours of labor and delivery didn’t seal
it, it was the hummingbird feeder that made me feel like a mom.
This is our
first spring and summer in our new house and I had a reminder on my calendar to
set out the hummingbird feeder. It’s right outside our kitchen window and I was
delighted when hummingbirds started visiting! We were getting several different
ones and started naming them. There was the beautiful ruby throated James,
plain, petit Judy and a few other regulars. Pretty soon, though, I noticed that
fat, short-beaked Franklin had decided to stake claim on the feeder and would
dive-bomb anyone who tried to come to one of the four fake flowers that held
the sugary sweet “nectar” I so lovingly prepared.
I had heard
hummingbirds can be territorial but it still made me mad. It was only when
Franklin flew away that the others could come for a drink. He’d perch on top of
the feeder, ready to drive away any competition. Didn’t he know that there was
more than enough sugar-water to go around? Didn’t he know that I would gladly
make more, if the feeder was even close to being empty? Silly Franklin. Franklin
got under my skin. He should share the wealth. He shouldn’t be so bossy. This
wasn’t his feeder, it was MINE. Slow your roll, Franklin.
Why did
Franklin make me so mad? And then it hit me: It made me mad beause I am
Franklin. When I have leftover condiments at a fast food restaurant, I take
them home with me and store them in my fridge. I like to blame it on being
frugal, but it goes deeper than that. I’m afraid if I don’t take care of myself
and get all I can, a day will come when I don’t have what I need. Isn’t that
the American Way?
Saving comes
naturally to me. I do it with fast food condiments, with money, with snacks and
with deeper, more meaningful parts of my life. I frequently catch myself
holding my breath. As if there might not be enough air for my next inhale. I
hold onto what I have, in case it runs out. This is all subconsciously done, of
course, but it is a common thread in my life. Worry that applause for someone
else might mean there is no room for recognizing the good that I have done.
Worry that, despite God showing faithfulness again and again throughout my
life, the lifeline might just run out this time.
I ran across a quote by Ann Voskamp in January and it’s been slowly sinking in for the past several months. “Worry is belief gone wrong. Because you don’t believe that God will get it right. But peace- peace is belief that exhales. Because you believe that God’s provision is everywhere- like air.” God’s provision is everywhere- like air. Oh, to breathe the free air! To not chase the other hummingbirds away, but welcome them to the feast, trusting that there will be more than enough for everyone.
I ran across a quote by Ann Voskamp in January and it’s been slowly sinking in for the past several months. “Worry is belief gone wrong. Because you don’t believe that God will get it right. But peace- peace is belief that exhales. Because you believe that God’s provision is everywhere- like air.” God’s provision is everywhere- like air. Oh, to breathe the free air! To not chase the other hummingbirds away, but welcome them to the feast, trusting that there will be more than enough for everyone.
I want to
live my life as an exhale. Give my time, my energy, my money, my dearest treasure.
Freely. With abandon, knowing it is all a gift from God in the first place.